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Leaving Christianity

Abuse, Christianity

“Not All Christians” And Other Responses That Miss The Point

The current discussion around domestic violence, thanks to the brave clergy wives who shared their stories on the ABC recently, has made the church publicly accountable for the ways they have failed the women in their congregations. The #churchtoo movement on Twitter, has also ignited a number of conversations surrounding spiritual trauma and the physical and emotional abuse inflicted by members of the church, often in the name of Jesus. I’ve inserted some tweets below for context. Let these words…

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Christianity, Sex

How Church Has Damaged Sex for Those Who Have Left

I have spoken to a lot of people about sex, particularly about how difficult it has been to enjoy the ecstasy of sex post-religion. I believe the way the Christian church talks about sex is damaging, and this damage is experienced, in full force, by those who leave it. Churches have room to shift the way they talk about sex, while maintaining the Biblical conviction that sex should be reserved for marriage. This blog post seeks to give voice to…

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Christianity, Church

5 Things The Church Gave Me

I spend a lot of time on this blog criticising the structures of organised religion. I don’t do this out of malice, out of a belief that religion is wrong or that the people within its communities are ignorant or naïve. I do it because I and many others who question faith or walk away entirely, have discovered the damaging effects of indoctrination and how this can hurt how we interact with people, engage in activities (sex) and/or see the…

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Christianity, Church

Please Stop Asking Me How I’m ‘Doing’ With Jesus

I’m slumped on the couch and my phone buzzes. I look down as my popcorn slowly makes its way into my mouth. I read the name beside the envelope icon. Oh shit. It’s a text/email/Facebook message from ex-Minister/leader/Godsquad member that I’m not close friends with but once were on the basis that we shared a mutual faith. We haven’t spoken in years. How are you with Jesus? It’s been a while, but I want to make sure you’re doing okay….

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Atheism, Christianity

I Tried To Read A Book By An Atheist But Couldn’t

I sat down to read a book by an atheist the other day. What better way to validate my religious hesitations than by reading someone who vehemently opposes the core of Christian teaching? I briefly mentioned my desire to expand my reading in a post recently, and a religiously affiliated person commented that while external reading, or more specifically, diverse forums of discussion might be what I think might be helpful, it is not what I need. (What I need…

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Christianity, Church

Losing My Religion and Leaving the Church Behind

I’ve been in therapy for a month now, trying to find a way to extricate myself from a life lived (and somewhat lost) in servitude to a religious body rather than a God. So far, the journey has been the cause of immense inner torment, coalesced with a paralysing loneliness and an inability to share with others how difficult the transition from existential certainty to uncertainty can be. The cause for my formal exit from Christianity, specifically the Sydney Anglican…

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