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A decade ago, I would have believed this dream was a vision from God. A vision showing me His Truth, reaffirming His view on purity and sex. Now, I understand it as a projection of inherited fear and my own lack of self worth.
Continue readingYouth group was an incredibly gendered time in the mid 2000s. It was the age of Joshua Harris’ I Kissed Dating Goodbye, and the idolisation of friends who saved their first kiss for their wedding day. It was also the age of gender-segregated talks on purity.
Continue readingI have been speaking to men and women, both in the church and no longer, about their experiences of singleness. Turns out, it’s not just 19-year-old Ruby who would have been disappointed by her no-one-on-the-horizon status in her mid-20s.
Continue readingI never questioned my sexuality as a teenager. To be honest, I didn’t know my heterosexuality could be questioned. Being gay was a choice influenced by Satan, and my choice, as a God-fearing young woman, was to be attracted to men. As I moved through the currents of teen-hood and into adulthood, I wondered whether this would remain true were I raised in a gender-neutral household, where assumptions about sex and gender were not upheld. While my liberal-Christian parents did…
Continue readingI have spoken to a lot of people about sex, particularly about how difficult it has been to enjoy the ecstasy of sex post-religion. I believe the way the Christian church talks about sex is damaging, and this damage is experienced, in full force, by those who leave it. Churches have room to shift the way they talk about sex, while maintaining the Biblical conviction that sex should be reserved for marriage. This blog post seeks to give voice to…
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