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A decade ago, I would have believed this dream was a vision from God. A vision showing me His Truth, reaffirming His view on purity and sex. Now, I understand it as a projection of inherited fear and my own lack of self worth.
Continue readingAt one point, I remember you offered me a six-week program that you had designed, in which I could mourn my loss of love. One designed for women with “same-sex attraction”. A program through which I could express grief over the fact that I would give up my ‘desire for a romantic relationship’, and find joy in the Jesus I was being presented with. I think it was supposed to be cathartic?
Continue readingNew Age was a big, scary word that covered a range of practices that, I was told, was a highway line to hell. Literally. Yoga, reiki, crystals, meditation, clairvoyance. I was taught that these practices could make you feel really good, but it was a trick.
Continue readingYouth group was an incredibly gendered time in the mid 2000s. It was the age of Joshua Harris’ I Kissed Dating Goodbye, and the idolisation of friends who saved their first kiss for their wedding day. It was also the age of gender-segregated talks on purity.
Continue readingMy first brick fell when I was at a Christian girls’ brunch where I asked the female youth pastor about feminism. I got a “we don’t talk about that here.” Something in me began to rumble. It dawned on me that a world had been curated for me by the church and I had no control over it. At this point, I had no clue what I was feeling. But I knew I had to leave, take time for myself and figure it out.
Continue readingThere’s a lot of talk about religious ‘deconstruction’ and ‘reconstruction’ at the moment, particularly coming from the #Exvangelical movement. We’re seeing high-profile Christian leaders, authors, theologians and musicians like Joshua Harris (author of I Kissed Dating Goodbye) and Marty Sampson (Hillsong writer) walking away from Christianity, and doing so publicly. Christians would label this as “leaving the fold” or “falling away”, but for many, and maybe for these former Christian leaders, these terms fail to represent the journey. In fact,…
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